Setting Goals: Your only recipe for success

Goals are like signposts. As long as you can see these signposts, then you know you are heading in the right direction. When you set goals, you eliminate the possibility veering off the track and derailing into failure. When a train veers of the rails, the entire locomotive is derailed. Looking at the rails, one does not see anything special in them; just a solid mass of steel. But that simple mass of steel ensures that the train remains on course and that everyone on board reaches their destination safely and on time.

Goals are like rails. Without them, our claim to success will never find expression in reality. Just as a train must stay on the rails to complete the journey, our dreams, our ambitions, and our desires must find expression in goals that are clear, realistic and timely.

When we have well articulated and clearly defined goals, the journey towards success becomes lighter, even less tiring. This is because goals help us to (i) stay focused (ii) be realistic in our expectations (iii) gauge our progress (iv) avoid being overwhelmed (v) re-evaluate and redefine our strategy to ensure conformity and consistency with our objectives.

Stay focused
John Maxwell says “obstacles are the things you see when you take your eyes off the goal”. How true! Every time you take your eyes away from the goal at hand, you will surely wander off into troubled waters. If you get to a point in your success journey where you can’t see your goal, you are definitely headed into failure territory.

Goals constantly remind us that there are tasks that need to be done, and within a particular time frame, for us to make progress. Without goals reminding us of where we are and what we are supposed to do to get where we ought to be, we will only be working hard and achieving nothing. Hard work, as Maxwell says, “is the accumulation of easy tasks you did not do when you should have”. The easy routine tasks that we sometimes ignore feeds into our success. Failure to perform these tasks will translate into failure.

Goals must be realistic
Goals must be firmly established upon unflinching reality. If you want to go to New York and you only have ten dollars, it would be foolhardy to start packing for your journey. The reality is that boarding a plane to New York from Nairobi costs more than 10 dollars! But you say, “I have faith in God”? Well, faith is not foolish, neither is it an emotion. No amount of goose bumps or frenzied hysteria will take you to New York on ten dollars. Be real or you will miss the deal.

Goals are yardsticks
Like yardsticks, goals help us gauge or measure our progress, or lack of it. Without goals constantly reminding us where we are and what we should be doing to get where we ought to be, we will be running wild. No amount of sticking our head deep into the sand will help us achieve success. We must stick it out to the end by daily attaining the goals we have set for ourselves. This can only be done if today’s tasks are ‘done’ today!

To post pone to tomorrow today’s task will only mean one thing: a clog up tasks. The result is that we end up breaking our backs trying to accomplish both yesterday’s and today’s tasks; resulting in sloppy and unfinished tasks.

Goals help us avoid overwhelm
To de-stress our lives, we need to learn how to work smart by finishing our daily tasks on schedule.

This is important if we are to avoid being overwhelmed by tasks carried over from yesterday.

One of the leading causes of burnout and depression is the failure to tackle simple tasks on time. As tasks pile up one after another, we end up having to work overtime and sometimes overnight; pushing our body to limits it was not designed to go. To avoid overwhelm, learn to decongest your life by doing what must be done today, today! However if you want to work hard and up stressing yourself, go ahead and let the tasks accumulate.

Goals help us re- strategize
Finally we need to re-evaluate and redefine our strategy to ensure conformity with our objectives. Strategies help us achieve our goals faster. However, some of the strategies we use are sometimes rendered obsolete by the passage of time. When this happens, it is important to redefine or tweak them a little.

Strategies must always remain relevant and in line with the desired goals. When they become irrelevant or obsolete, they should be discarded and new ones invented.

Strategies help us save time by crowding out irrelevant tasks; those that only take up our time but which do not feed into in to our goals. Strategies also help us to concentrate on priority tasks; those that are crucial to the attainment of our goals.

Ways To Promote Independence in Developmentally Disabled

Our society as a whole can only function well when all its sections are working well. Americans with disabilities are an equal part of this society. The society can treat them as a burden and choose to ignore, as it has been conveniently doing since long. However, the best way to deal with the problem is to accept it. Community integration of developmentally disabled adults and kids is the right way to solve the problem. Treating people with intellectual disability with respect and as equals is the way. If they are given the right training, exposure, and opportunities, they can become a contributing member of the society. They are only a bit slow and they have had no control over it. All that is required is the inclusion of people with mental disabilities.

Jobs for disabled are disproportionate. It is no secret that the share of the developmentally disabled adults in jobs is very low. As per the statistics released by the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, only 17.9% people with disabilities were employed in 2016. The employment ration of people without disabilities is well above 76%. This shows that community integration has been lacking. The sense of empathy and companionship may have been lingering deep in our hearts it has been absent in the society.

It is important that we all take steps to increase their participation in society as a whole. Making them feel as a contributing member is very important. Some ways to promote their independence and increase their participation are:

Give Work
Work is always emancipating. It breaks barriers and brings people into the mainstream. Developmentally disabled adults mainly remain cut-off from society because they do not get to work in it. It is important that we give them work. Right to work with everyone will give them a sense of belonging. They will be able to integrate into the society better. Developmental disabilities services are limited and their scope needs to be widened.

Sports Opportunities
Sports is a great way to break inhibitions and make people comfortable and loved. It can be a great medium for promoting community integration in people with mental disabilities. It makes people more inclined towards taking initiative. It can become a starting point for gaining independence.

Respect and Interaction
One of the biggest reasons for people with intellectual disabilities not being independent is lack of trust. Our interaction with them is so low that we are never able to develop respect for their abilities. People with mental disabilities are generally fit for physical work. They are employable in several types of jobs. It is our lack of knowledge and trust that keeps them aloof. By increasing interaction with them, a trust-building exercise can be started. Their community integration through work will propel their quest for independence. Supported housing is also a great way to increase their interaction with everyone. They will get higher exposure and live with everyone without inhibitions.

Increase Representation
The less we know, the lesser we bother. Developmentally disabled adults have a very low representation in society. This has created a vacuum. A feel-good factor where we have closed our eyes to a reality. This can be changed by increasing their representation in the society. Allowing more people to work, live and play besides everyone is the best way to cater to it.

Increase Awareness by Teaching
Lack of ample knowledge about intellectual disabilities and the problems people with them face is a big reason for concern. This ignorance becomes the root cause of apathy. For greater inclusion, it is important that we teach people about them. The problems, their causes and the limitations they cause. This will help people in understanding people with mental disabilities. Their sympathetic and cooperating attitude to creating a safer environment. Developmentally disabled people will be able to move around more safely without being stared or google.

Americans with disabilities are as important part of the nation as everyone else. They can and should contribute their part in the development of nation but for that, they need to get a chance. This chance has to be given to them by making them independent. Community integration is a great step,to begin with. Supported housing is one initiative that has started bringing them into the mainstream and more such steps need to be taken.



Yelping Helps

When people go to a restaurant they visit for certain appealing aspects of the establishment. Some may find the food mediocre, but the ambiance brings you back. Some may also go for the food even though it’s not their “scene”. The physical ability to try a new place out usually depends on word-of-mouth, hoping that a friend may point out a new cool hangout. For those that don’t have that source of direction they can use Yelp.

Yelp is an online mobile app, or website, that let’s you scale the internet for business reviews. From a car mechanic to a small diner, there will be a yelp review for it. Yelping gives everybody who owns the application the chance for them to feel like a critic. This online review data base can offer you suggestions on places that you’ve been to before or places to even stay away from. Different categories of material can be reviewed as well. Say you didn’t like the food, but the scenery of the restaurant was on point, you can rank the details compared to the food. Yelp also gives the consumers a chance to send messages to the company themselves, in order to share their experience and ensure that the business will see the critique.

This on the other hand is making business owners very nervous. One customer with bad service can bring down your star rating and potentially stray other potential visitors away from the establishment. This is a good thing though. This gives the management not only an insight to how customers view their business but it also allows them to fix their mistakes in order to make the customers next visit go a little more smooth. Yelping has made it not only easier to figure out where you want to bring your business but it also doubles as a directional guide to whichever business you’re trying to travel to. Yelp gives the user the ability to show the closest places using location tracking in order to give the user the closest option. The age of Yelp is here and it is here to stay. With millions of users nationwide it has become the new helpful guide to helping the everyday customer get the best bang for their buck. While helping businesses gain helpful feed back and potential business yelping is consistently helping the everyday user have not only their voices heard but a piece of mind.


Review of Blood Relations

A twisted legal thriller which satisfies with as much grit as it does with intrigue, Blood Relations by co-authors Kathy Cohen and Edward Cohen keeps you rapt and wound tight till its shocking ending.

Absolutely worth the read, this legal thriller brings readers to the hot and steamy locale of New Orleans, where behind the closed doors of the selective Munger and Cameron law firm, things turn out to be just as hot and even steamier. And when young Kyle Cameron accidentally discovers his father’s infidelitous relationship with sexy femme fatale co-worker, lawyer Laura Niles, he aims to entice his father’s love interest away. However, things take a turn for the horrific when Laura Niles is found murdered and Jake -Kyle’s father–winds up in the center of a circumstantial whirlwind of evidence that could destroy his career, marriage and even his life. Facing jail or execution, Jake has no choice but to trust his ne’er-do-well son and lawyer, Kyle, trying the case that would make or break him.

Wholly a story that wields egos, money, wealth and the culture of New Orleans with apt storytelling and style, this narrative hosts an ensemble of complex characters that intrigue and draw ire, as well as scintillate – brimming full of personality with grittily imperfect characters whose tremendous egos have them crossing seemingly inviolable boundaries, unabashed by consequences. Especially engaging are the complex and prominent males, Jake and Kyle Cameron. Dysfunctional as father and son, both womanizing men are caught off balance by the draw of the unforgettable and exceedingly carnal Laura.

The authors Cohen tell an authentic story that treats readers to a vividly painted setting wrapped around an intense legal drama complete with plot twists and sexy interludes, leading to a read that makes both the blood and the senses boil. They tell an intelligent and intriguing story that immediately draws in the reader with its reveals of interludes of dark pasts, bad choices, family dysfunction, and legal drama, all buried deep in a web of deceit, murder and sex, the reveal of which keeps you rapt until the end. Additionally, I found the nod to the 1940s noir movie, Laura especially engrossing as it plays out within the psyche of Kyle, further enhancing this well- written story.

Altogether, Blood Relations makes for a juicy adult-themed murder mystery that is well worth the read. I enjoyed the twisted plot, swimming in intriguing twists, dysfunction, drama, and steamy sexuality. Ultimately, this is the type of book that should be considered a must-read for fans of legal thrillers.


Book Review: 1001 Movies You Must See Before You Die by Steven Jay Schneider

The book under review 1001 Movies You Must See Before You Die edited by Steven Jay Schneider gives you details of 1001 famous movies released between 1900 and 2016.

It is an elaborate work and a film lover’s dream.

It chronicles the entire history of cinema spread over hundred years.

Choosing 1001 films from thousands of films is itself a research work and this was done by the author in a fantastic way.

How these films are chosen? First, from various best films, top hundred films, top ten movies lists 1300 films were selected. After going through the list again and again it was cut short to 1001 movies.

The films list is given alphabetically at the beginning of the book.

For example if you choose Tom Tykwer’s Run Lola Run, a 1998 film, you will get all the details.

Run Lola Run is an interesting, unusual film making experiment that has humor, breathless excitement and tremendous energy all tightly packaged into an MTV generation movie by the fresh talent of its writer-director.

The film shows the twenty minute story of Lola in three different times each subtly different in a manner that delivers three different outcomes. A beautiful innovative film’s full details are given in a fitting manner.

Like this you may read about one thousand and one best films and start viewing one by one before your death.

The Genre index given at the end of the book covers 22 subjects namely Action, Adventure, Animation, Avant-Garde, Comedy, Crime, Docu-drama, Documentary, Drama, Experimental, Family, Fantasy, Horror, Musical, Mystery, Noir, Romance, Sci-fi, Short, Thriller, War and Western.

The directors index gives you details about 596 famous director including Cecil B. Demille, Alfred Hitchcock, Steven Spielberg etc.

War films such The Bridge on the river Kwai (1957), The Great Escape (1963), Gone with the Wind (1939) needs to be specially mentioned here.

However we are not able to find the famous war films such The Guns of Navarone, Force Ten from Navarone etc.


Online Branding for Musicians How to – Why Branding Your Band Is Essential

Before I begin writing this article, I’d like to say that most artists and musicians are sometimes intimidated with the word BRAND. A lot, or even most, have no idea what it means or what it is, and most importantly how crucial it can be to setting themself apart from all of the thousands of other acts out there; and being the band that ultimately achieves success.

First, let me point out that building your digital brand is not as complicated as you might think. As a matter of fact, it’s probably one of the easiest and least expensive forms of marketing your music, and your band. As I indicated, I am going to lay this out – step-by-step so that it is very easy to follow and implement. So, let’s get into it a little:

YOUR LOGO:

This is probably the simplest form of your brand. Every act should have a logo that in some way or another represents who you are. It should be simple and easy to understand. But you must have one. Don’t rush it – do many different ideas and samples until you pick the final version. Collaborate with band-members, fans, and friends for different ideas. Six heads are better than one.

YOUR STORY:

Remember, you essentially want your digital brand to tell the story of who you are. Focus on details that describe your image and likeness, your on-stage consistent look, and a consistent look and feel for your websites and social media. Once you devise your branded image, exploit it everywhere. When fans move from website to website, or see you perform, your brand must be consistent. Everywhere people look for you, they must be able to absolutely know it’s you – simply by seeing your consistent logo, brand, and image. It must be memorable!!

CONSTRUCT A COMMUNITY OF FOLLOWERS:

Personalize your fan engagement experiences. Build trust and affection in your close personal community. Engage as often as possible. Possibly use brand-infused giveaways as a way to increase your follower’s cooperation.

Use Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook to constantly spread your brand and expose it to as many followers as possible. By all means, shoot professional videos. Video will enhance your brand and give your fans a closer look at what you’re all about and become closer to you.

OVERSHADOW YOUR COMPETITION:

Dominate your particular music market by being distinctive in every aspect of your digital and traditional marketing efforts. Some examples are your official website, your social media sites and posts, new CD releases and especially in your merchandise. Your merch must be distinctive and express your image and brand in its designs. Along with your logo, merch designs should also reflect your band’s character and its overall story. The designs should be original and trendy. If they’re truly cool designs, people will buy them even if it had nothing to do with your band; hence, more collateral exposure for your brand.

PUBLICITY & MUSIC MEDIA RELATIONS:

Exploit your brand in the news media, interviews, radio, and in music review blogs. Getting coverage in any of the media outlets will create serious attention and awareness for your brand, and further enhance it. This type of outreach is better handled by a seasoned music publicist. It takes a great deal of time, expertise, and an accumulation of high profile media contacts. It’s extremely difficult for the average artist to be taken seriously by media outlets. A professional music publicist, who is trusted by the media, may cost you a few bucks, but it’s worth every penny.

SO, IN SUMMARY:

Remember, don’t get too intense or complicated. And most importantly, don’t get frustrated. Take your time – do it right and keep it simple. Don’t forget to work with all of your band-members, fans, friends and followers when it comes to establishing your logo, story, image, and designs. Six heads are better than one. Take a look at the extremely popular acts that you admire – see how they approach branding. You may want to consider emulating some of their ideas.

Branding is serious business. It’s not something to be ignored. It’s the visual representation of you as an artist. Just have fun, and do it!

©Ken Cavalier Worldwide — Ken is a 35 year veteran of the music industry. Beginning his career as a recording & performing artist signed to Warner Bros Records™ he now works in the industry as a music marketing consultant, music branding specialist, and publicist for independent artists. His passion for indie musicians is his cornerstone. You can find more information about Ken and his company Allure Media Entertainment Group at http://www.IndieMusicPublicity.com


5 Powerful tools to empower you & change your life NOW!

  1. Know that the power, to have everything you want in life, is in you now! Surround yourself positive energy. It sounds easy & a bit silly, I know, but stick with me & try it; it’s FREE AND IT WORKS! Focus on what you want, close your eyes, envision it; take a deep, slow breath, & really feel the success, happiness & power of that successful vision, enjoy that moment & that feeling! Make a daily habit of this success ritual, it will empower you! The best example that I can give you is about me, personally. When I was first in  the hospital after my stroke, a doctor, a Specialist that I have been working with, leaned over and patted me on the shoulder and very apologetically said, ” you never walk again, I’m so sorry.” I looked up at her in disbelief and shock.  This was probably my biggest motivator: because to me, it is not meant to be for me, I knew that I was supposed to walk again. So, with the help of a leg brace, a lot of hard work, physical therapy and a cane; within six weeks, I was walking again. Because to me that was my reality: I would walk because in my mind & my spirit, I knew that I was met to walk again. A little bit differently and slower but still I AM WALKING!. I think this is the greatest example that I can get to you is the power is within you. Focus and stay on track, don’t worry if others aren’t on board right away. If it’s the right thing to do and driving you to feel empowered, STAY WITH IT, DON’T GIVE UP!

2. Use your resources (books, medical care team, family/friends, Internet) and be an active part of your recovery. Set goals for yourself, it’s okay if they’re just small goals. set goals and the success and power of meeting each goal will continue to empower you to do more and be better every day!

3. Be an active participant in your success! Decide every morning that today will be even better than yesterday and set a goal to succeed! Maybe finish a book; take five more steps than yesterday; talk to more people than yesterday. Make a plan, a goal and go for it!

  1. Write in a journal daily. It is very empowering and just think, in a week you can look back through it and see how far you have come! You are strong and amazing, remember that!
  2. Write down what your disability means to you, is it a visible disability? Mental? Decide to embrace it and set your goals to succeed in spite of your disabilities. Sharing your story, successes, struggles, etc. Is very empowering! Not sure where to start? Here! Now! Email me about your story and you may be featured as Sassy Helper’s 2015 SUCCESS FUL & EMPOWERING PERSON of the Year. Please submit an email of your story, or the story of someone you know, who inspires you by November 15,2015!

5 Powerful tools to empower you & change your life NOW!

Know that the power, to have everything you want in life, is in you now! Surround yourself positive energy. I sounds easy & a bit silly, I know, but stick with me & try it; it’s FREE AND IT WORKS! Focus on what you want, close your eyes, envision it; take a deep, slow breath, & really feel the success, happiness & power of that successful vision, enjoy that moment & that feeling! Make a daily habit of this success ritual, it will empower you! The best example that I can give you is about me, personally. When I was first in  the hospital after my stroke, a doctor, a Specialist that I have been working with, leaned over and patted me on the shoulder and said almost apologetically: you never walk again, I’m so sorry. I looked up at her in disbelief and shock.  This was probably my biggest motivator: because to me, it is not meant to be for me. I did walk again, with the help of a leg brace, a lot of hard work, physical therapy and a cane within six weeks, I was walking again! Because to me that was my reality and it was realistic: I would walk because in my mind & my spirit, I was met to walk again. A little bit differently and slower but still I AM WALKING!. I think this is the greatest example that I can get to you is the power is within you. Focus on and stay track, don’t worry if others aren’t on board right away. If it’s the right thing to do and driving you to feel empowered, STAY WITH IT, DON’T GIVE UP!

  1. Use your resources (books, medical care team, family/friends, Internet) and be an active part of your own recovery. Set goals for yourself, it’s okay if they’re just small goals. Set goals and the success and power of meeting each goal will continue to empower you to do more and be better every day!
  2. Be an active participant in your success! Decide every morning that today will be even better than yesterday and set a goal to succeed! Maybe finish a book; take five more steps than yesterday; talk to more people than yesterday. Make a plan, a goal and go for it!
  3. Write in a journal daily. It is very empowering and just think, in a week you can look back through it and see how far you have come! You are strong and amazing, remember that!
  4. Write down what your disability means to you, is it a visible disability? Mental? Decide to embrace it and set your goals to succeed in spite of your disabilities. Sharing your story, successes, struggles, etc. Is very empowering! Not sure where to start? Here! Now! Email me about your story and you may be featured as The Disabled Life Hacks’ 2018 SUCCESSFUL & EMPOWERING PERSON of the Year! Please submit an email of your story, or the story of someone you know, now, we would love to hear from you!
  5. Embrace the Power of kindness. Be kind to others & to yourself every day. That kindness has a way to move yourself & others to be more & do more than ever thought possible.

10 Great Disabled Life Hacks!

  1. Be POSITIVE! having a positive and energetic attitude will help you succeed and have more fun! Fake it, ’till you make it! It works and helps to attract positive & supportive people into your life as well!
  2. Be Grateful. You have a lot going for you. Take a moment to jot down the things that are going right for you!. You’ll be surprised and grateful, smile and appreciate your successes! You have survived whatever it was that caused your injury and you are stronger each and every day, despite the disabilities! Check out my YOUTUBE Channel for more great free tips!
  3. Be Happy, things could be worse (yes, they could!). I know, I understand that at times it seems overwhelming; you will get through it and be happier, NEVER GIVE UP!
  4. Remember that every challenge is an opportunity & as you learn, share your knowledge! So many people wish that they had your successes, share with them your knowledge and your experience! Write to me, share them with me and I will be sure that your tips are acknowledged here, we grow stronger and more successful together! So, Let’s Roll! I challenge you to reach out to others struggling with their disabled Lifestyle and share your knowledge, experience & ideas! Below comment some of your tips/ideas. Or better yet, share your story! We would love to hear your story, so I challenge you to be courageous & Let’s Hear it!
  5. Use every days items to help you. (Transitioning from “Average” to Disabled changes everything so even the simple, habitual things can be challenging).Examples of simple solutions:
  6. Wear an apron, if you need to gather things around the house and move them to one room. It’s simple, easy & effective!
  7. A pair of scissors, keep them handy in your apron or in a drawer. If you’re in a wheelchair and you drop something, if you don’t have a “grabber”, you can usually pick it up with scissors. Also, you can cut off the top of a banana (for those of us who only have use of one hand.) & its easier to peel!
  8. Shop for things that you can use with only one hand (break out of the habit of buying typical things that require two hands). Ask at the store, if you can take it out of the box and try it first, before you buy it. If you explain why, it usually not an issue & it will save you a lot of time & money by not buying things that are not useful for you!
  9. Invite friends & family over to your home for entertaining. You know that everything is accessible to you. You & your friends will be able to relax, be comfortable and enjoy a nice time together!
  10. Be Kind to Others and to yourself. Transitioning from “Average” to the Disabled Lifestyle is challenging enough without being angry and frustrated a lot! Being Kind & Happy are choices that you can make every day! It’s an easy & fun choice to make, so DECIDE to be happy & KIND TODAY, every day.
  11. One more important tip! Be prepared to have a good sense of humor about things because people (especially strangers) will ask the strangest questions or make odd comments. I have found a lot of times, they are just curious or uncomfortable and don’t realize that it’s a strange question/statement until they had already made it.

 

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